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Perfectionism

Friday, April 22nd, 2011

Perfectionism bombards us with thoughts of “I’m not worthy, I’m not enough, I’ll never amount to anything, I’ll never get it right, I’ll never be OK.” 

How can we possibly be our best self and give our fullness to the world, when we are caught in the corrosive thought traps of our inner critic?  The following inspirational quotes can lead you to the path of compassion, acceptance, and connection with the human condition.  Understand how this pattern of perfectionism developed.  Recognize you inner voice urging you to perfectionism, and develop your adult inner voice that says “We’re all in this together. We are all enough. We are all trying to do the best we can do – and that ain’t ever going to be perfection.”

      Think of your self-defeating thoughts as a fence around you marking where your compassion ends and your harsh judgments begin.  To free yourself, imagine stepping beyond the fence into a vast field that goes on as far as you can see.  Allow a breeze to thin out your thoughts and blow them away, and notice that you are part of the vast energy that connects us all.
      –Charlotte Kasl

      How much of our lives are frittered away–spoilt, spent, or sullied–by our neurotic insistence on perfection?  Perhaps our parents expected us to live up to a standard they themselves could never achieve.  Certainly they wanted more for us.  But more of what?  Misery?  Haven’t you had enough?  Accept that perfection is unattainable.  In real life we should strive to be our best – not the world’s.
      –Sarah Ban Breathnach

      Mistakes are the portals of discovery
      –James Joyce

      Failure is the condiment that gives success its flavor.
      –Truman Capote 

      Always keep in mind that the Inner Critic’s original function is to spare us shame and pain…  In the growing-up process your parents have to teach you to look good and to behave appropriately in order to succeed in the world, both at home and in the workplace. After all, who would be to blame if you turned out badly? So you parents look at you, try their best to figure out what is wrong with you, and do their place to fix it.  The same is true of relatives, teachers, religious leaders, people in your workplace, and general acquaintances. 

      No matter what their motivation, the basic message you received …in all of this is:  “There is something wrong with you.”  The implication is that if only you would improve yourself all would go well for you. 

      In order to protect ourselves from the pain and shame of always being found less than we should be, a voice develops within us that echoes the concerns of our parents, our church, or of other people who were important to us in our early years.  We literally develop a “self” a separate subpersonality, that criticizes us before our parents—or anyone else, for that matter—can!…………It is extremely anxious, almost desperate, for us to succeed in the world and to be accepted and liked by others.
      –Hal Stone and Sidra Stone – - Embracing Your Inner Critic

      How do we embrace imperfection? What does it take to live and love from a place of worthiness?  How do we cultivate what we need and let go of the things that are holding us back?  The answers to all of these questions are courage, compassion and connection….  Our vulnerabilities are what force us to call upon these amazing tools.  Because we are human and so beautifully imperfect, we get to practice using our tools on a daily basis.  In this way, courage, compassion, and connection become gifts – - the gifts of imperfection.

      –Brene Brown, Ph.D.The Gifts of Imperfection
       

      Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.
      –Brene Brown, Ph.D. – The Gifts of Imperfection

      I’ve come to truly believe that all that is being asked of each of us is to be as real as we can be.  To become fully ourselves and to offer that fullness to the rest of the world.  That’s no small task, indeed it is the ongoing work of our lifetime.  But it certainly is much easier-on us and others-that striving for perfection.  It frees up so much time, energy and joy—and can’t we use a whole lot more of those?
      –M J Ryan

    I hope you have enjoyed this small glimpse into one way we contract ourselves.  To help yourself remember how much more your are, read This Miracle Called You and The Self, and the three essays in Life.

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